Struggling Through Singleness 

I’m just going to start out by saying, my heart is in a weird place right now. It’s stuck somewhere between trying my best to be content waiting on God, and anxiously wanting so many things to happen at once. Lately, I’ve really been struggling with my season of singleness. I mean, to be quite honest, it’s not even a season. I’ve been single my entire life. I never did the whole “teenage dating scene.” I had my share of crushes in high school, but none of them ever went past the point of me liking a guy, and him not even knowing I existed. So, to say that my heart is getting to be a little impatient, is kind of an understatement.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for waiting on God and trusting in His timing, but sometimes I wish I could give Him a little nudge and get the ball rolling a little faster. The thing that makes waiting even harder, is thinking that you know who He has set aside for you. When you let your head and your heart get comfortable with the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone, and it just doesn’t go the way you want it to, it tends to throw you into a funk. As difficult as it may be, that’s when you have to remind yourself that God has His absolute best planned for you, and you just need to stay out of it and let Him work.

I guess the thing is, I’m almost twenty five years old. I have baby fever like crazy, and I’m beyond ready to find a sweet, man of God to marry and settle down with. I want nothing more in life than to be a wife and a Mom. I want someone to love unconditionally that I can spend the rest of my life with. Someone who is closer to God than he is to me, someone to help me raise our kids to love the Lord with their whole hearts. I’m just ready. I’ll keep on praying, hoping, and waiting until that man comes along, because I know that God’s plans are far better than anything I could ever imagine. Even when its a struggle, we need to learn to hang in there and wait on God.

 

 

 

 

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Dear Christian Single

Dear Christian Single,

God's Best

I know it may seem like God has forgotten about you. You may feel like that you’re never going to find the spouse of your dreams and you’ll be single forever. Just keep hanging in there! You’re in this season of singleness for a good reason, although you may never find out why, God knows and that’s all that matters. Don’t lose hope, God hasn’t forgotten about you! His timing is perfect and when He finally brings you to the person He’s been preparing for you, you’ll realize that the wait was more than worth it. As you’re waiting, don’t put your life on hold because you feel as though you can’t go any further until you’re married. Use this time to your advantage, after all, God has put you here for a reason! Strengthen your relationship with Him, pray for your future spouse, make a list of qualities you want to find in and have for that spouse.

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you…”

James 4:8 (NKJV) 

Most of us can probably say that we honestly don’t spend enough time with God each day. I know I have days when I get out of bed, throw myself together, and go into work without even touching my Bible. Let me tell you, I can feel it by the end of the day! Even if you don’t always have time to open up your Bible, make sure to acknowledge Him each morning and evening. Whether it be a quick little prayer about your day, a “Thank You” now and then throughout the day, or even starting your day with some praise music on the way to or getting ready for work or school. You don’t have to spend an hour in your Bible and in prayer for it to count. Use your season of singleness to find different ways to draw closer to Him. Better yet, use this time to serve Him and love on His people. Volunteer, get involved with your church in different ways, mentor someone younger than you, there are plenty of opportunities! Watch, listen, and be open to change as he prepares your heart for that special person!

“Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalm 37:4 (NIV)

Pray for your future spouse! It may seem silly because you don’t know who you’re praying FOR, but God does. Use your list of qualities as a guideline for your prayers. Also pray that the Lord will continue to prepare your heart and shape you into the person He needs you to be for that spouse.

You can kind of pick out the qualities I’m looking for in my future husband in a past post of mine entitled “From Me, with Love” go check it out and maybe take the time to write out a letter to your future spouse as well!

“God intends and expects marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.”  

~ John C. Broger