Struggling Through Singleness 

I’m just going to start out by saying, my heart is in a weird place right now. It’s stuck somewhere between trying my best to be content waiting on God, and anxiously wanting so many things to happen at once. Lately, I’ve really been struggling with my season of singleness. I mean, to be quite honest, it’s not even a season. I’ve been single my entire life. I never did the whole “teenage dating scene.” I had my share of crushes in high school, but none of them ever went past the point of me liking a guy, and him not even knowing I existed. So, to say that my heart is getting to be a little impatient, is kind of an understatement.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for waiting on God and trusting in His timing, but sometimes I wish I could give Him a little nudge and get the ball rolling a little faster. The thing that makes waiting even harder, is thinking that you know who He has set aside for you. When you let your head and your heart get comfortable with the idea of spending the rest of your life with someone, and it just doesn’t go the way you want it to, it tends to throw you into a funk. As difficult as it may be, that’s when you have to remind yourself that God has His absolute best planned for you, and you just need to stay out of it and let Him work.

I guess the thing is, I’m almost twenty five years old. I have baby fever like crazy, and I’m beyond ready to find a sweet, man of God to marry and settle down with. I want nothing more in life than to be a wife and a Mom. I want someone to love unconditionally that I can spend the rest of my life with. Someone who is closer to God than he is to me, someone to help me raise our kids to love the Lord with their whole hearts. I’m just ready. I’ll keep on praying, hoping, and waiting until that man comes along, because I know that God’s plans are far better than anything I could ever imagine. Even when its a struggle, we need to learn to hang in there and wait on God.

 

 

 

 

To My Lovely

  
  Hello love! 

  It’s been a long while since I wrote last, and you’ve been on my heart more now than ever! You’ve been into prayers constantly. I feel like you’re closer than you’ve ever been, and it’s honestly making me crazy to not be with you. I want to know who you are, I want to have you by my side. I want to overwhelm you with my love, to start doing life with you, to love Jesus together. 

  My heart is so ready for you! I sure do hope the Lord thinks that we’re ready for each other soon, too. I hope you’re praying for me as well. Believe me, my anxious heart needs it! Ha! I can’t wait to see what our future holds, but I know that it will be worth the wait! So, hang in there with me, and sooner or later we’ll be together for good. I already love you with all of my heart, dear! 

All of my love,

  Your Future Lovely ūüėė

Love Enough

  

When my heart gets tired of waiting,

I feel Your gentle touch

as You tenderly remind me

to stop worrying so much

 
You know the plans You have for me,

the man You’ve set aside

Your timing is always perfect

Your ways, much better than mine

 
Although I get impatient,

I may plead, and beg, and cry,

I know You know what’s best for me, 

and only Your Love can truly satisfy.

 
~Amanda N. Sams
July 5, 2015 

“Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, 

that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.”

~Psalm 90:14 (NIV)

To My Future Beloved

Love Birds

Hello lovely,

It’s me again, your future wife. I just wanted you to know that I’m praying for you like crazy. My heart aches to meet you like it never has before. I hope this means that the time is getting closer. I seriously can’t stop thinking about you, who you might be, the precious time we’ll spend together, the laughs we’ll have and the love we’ll share. I know they’ll be some tears too, because nothing is perfect, but we’ll always communicate and work things out.

I can’t wait to start our day with devotions and prayer, and of course some coffee too! I’m definitely looking forward to where the Lord is going to lead us and the adventures He’ll send us on along the way. I know that, because we have God at the center, our marriage will be rock solid and filled with love. I pray that you too, are using your season of singleness to pray and prepare your heart for me. I’m bursting with excitement to see what the future holds! Until the moment that the Lord finally decides it’s time for us to meet, I’ll continue praying for you, preparing my heart, and drawing closer to Him.

Until next time, lots of love!

Your Future Love ‚̧

When Waiting is Hard

Godly Man¬† Sometimes waiting is hard, really hard. Now, more than ever, my heart longs for a Godly man to love me, stand by my side, and draw me closer to God. A man to be silly with, to cry on his shoulder, and pray with. I know that God has the perfect man set aside for me, and I’ve put my trust in Him and know that when the time is right, I’ll know exactly who that man is. There’s even a chance he’s already a part of my life and I just don’t know it yet.

When I look around at all of the wonderful examples of Godly marriages that are still overflowing with love, even years later, it encourages my heart and inspires me to suck it up and wait it out. The Lord won’t just leave me hanging and heart broken, I can feel Him preparing my heart for marriage. Whispering to me what to look for in a man and telling me not to settle just to have my Facebook profile say “In a Relationship.” No, there will not be any settling here.

I will wait for as long as it takes for the Lord to send me a man that I’ll spend the rest of my life with. I don’t want a man to love for 15, maybe 20 years. No. I want to spend the REST OF MY LIFE with the man I marry. I know we’ll disagree and our marriage won’t be anywhere near perfect, but I want a man who will always fight for me, even after we’ve fought with each other. A man who loves God more than he loves me, one who’s always willing to pray after we’ve had an argument¬†then kiss and make up. A man who will say “I love you” until it’s nearly worn out, and who will be the Godly head of our household. I want our children to see our marriage and love for Jesus and say “I want that when I grow up.”

I know, it may seem like a lot to ask for, but don’t forget Who’s in charge here! I pray for my future husband and marriage every night. I can only hope and pray that the day it becomes a reality, those who have been watching my life, and maybe even doubting, will see that it IS worth the wait and when you put your trust in God He WILL give you the desires of your heart. Don’t lose hope, your time is coming, just keep trusting and be patient.

 

Dear Christian Single

Dear Christian Single,

God's Best

I know it may seem like God has forgotten about you. You may feel like that you’re never going to find the spouse of your dreams and you’ll be single forever. Just keep hanging in there! You’re in this season of singleness for a good reason, although you may never find out why, God knows and that’s all that matters. Don’t lose hope, God hasn’t forgotten about you! His timing is perfect and when He finally brings you to the person He’s been preparing for you, you’ll realize that the wait was more than worth it. As you’re waiting, don’t put your life on hold because you feel as though you can’t go any further until you’re married. Use this time to your advantage, after all, God has put you here for a reason! Strengthen your relationship with Him, pray for your future spouse, make a list of qualities you want to find in and have for that spouse.

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you…”

James 4:8 (NKJV) 

Most of us can probably say that we honestly don’t spend enough time with God each day. I know I have days when I get out of bed, throw myself together, and go into work without even touching my Bible. Let me tell you, I can feel it by the end of the day! Even if you don’t always have time to open up your Bible, make sure to acknowledge Him each morning and evening. Whether it be a quick little prayer about your day, a “Thank You” now and then throughout the day, or even starting your day with some praise music on the way to or getting ready for work or school. You don’t have to spend an hour in your Bible and in prayer for it to count. Use your season of singleness to find different ways to draw closer to Him. Better yet, use this time to serve Him and love on His people. Volunteer, get involved with your church in different ways, mentor someone younger than you, there are plenty of opportunities! Watch, listen, and be open to change as he prepares your heart for that special person!

“Take delight¬†in the¬†Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalm 37:4 (NIV)

Pray for your future spouse! It may seem silly because you don’t know who you’re praying FOR, but God does. Use your list of qualities as a guideline for your prayers. Also pray that the Lord will continue to prepare your heart and shape you into the person He needs you to be for that spouse.

You can kind of pick out the qualities I’m looking for in my future husband in a past post of mine entitled¬†“From Me, with Love”¬†go check it out and maybe take the time to write out a letter to your future spouse as well!

‚ÄúGod intends and expects¬†marriage¬†to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.‚Ä̬†¬†

~ John C. Broger 

“Waiting in Motion”

Waiting in Motion

I think we can all agree that waiting is hard to do, especially when you know that at the end of the waiting period is something exciting! There are many places in Scripture that instruct us to wait on God, be patient and He’ll give us all that we deserve and the greatest desires of our hearts.

“My soul is quiet and waits for God alone. My hope comes from Him.”

~Psalm 62:5 (NLV)

“I wait for the Lord. My soul waits and I hope in His Word.¬†6¬†My soul waits for the Lord more than one who watches for the morning; yes, more than one who watches for the morning.”

~Psalm 130:5-6 (NLV)

“But as for me, I will watch for the Lord. I will wait for the God Who saves me. My God will hear me.”

~Micah 7:7 (NLV)

… and those are just a few of those “wait on God” references!

The one that is sticking with me though, is this one. It doesn’t specifically tell us to “wait,” but instead to “trust” and “delight” in the Lord. The Message translation even tells us to “Get insurance with God.”

“Trust in the¬†Lord, and do good;
Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
 Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”

~Psalm 37:3-4 (NKJV)

Three things come to mind that I want to touch on in this post. A couple of which Sammy Adebiyi brought up in the sermons I listened to last night. “The Bachelor and the Bachelorette Part 1: The Weight of the Wait” and “The Bachelor and the Bachelorette Part 2: What is Love?” (They can be found here:¬†http://sammyadebiyi.com/audio-messages)

1) Waiting in motion-

“Trust in the Lord,¬†and do¬†good…”¬†The Lord doesn’t want us to sit around and do nothing as we wait for Him to move in our lives. He wants us to be active as we wait. Get involved, volunteer, make connections with others. Sitting around in your pajamas, eating oreos and watching Netflix isn’t the best way to find the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with! (I know the context of this Scripture has a much deeper meaning, but we can apply it to this too.)

2) Even Adam had to wait! (He also did so actively.)

Genesis 2:15-22- (NIV)

15¬†The¬†Lord¬†God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden¬†to work it and take care of it.¬†16¬†And the¬†Lord¬†God commanded the man, ‚ÄúYou are free to eat from any tree in the garden;¬†17¬†but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil,¬†for when you eat from it you will certainly die.‚ÄĚ

18¬†The¬†Lord¬†God said, ‚ÄúIt is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.‚ÄĚ

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam[a]¬†no suitable helper¬†was found.¬†21¬†So the¬†Lord¬†God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep;¬†and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man‚Äôs ribs[b]and then closed up the place with flesh.¬†22¬†Then the¬†Lord¬†God made a woman from the rib[c]¬†He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.”

Adam had to keep busy while he waited for a helper. When the Lord realized that Adam hadn’t found one suitable from the animals, He put Adam to sleep and created Eve. More waiting! From the beginning of the human race, we’ve had to wait on God to put the right person in our lives. It may not be easy, but…

3) The wait is worth it!

One day, you’ll find someone who loves Jesus tons more than they love you, someone who will lift you up to God and support you in all of your life’s adventures. You’ll bring each other closer to Christ, love on His people, and make a difference in the lives of others. All because you waited on God to put the right person in your life! Wouldn’t it be so much better if when that right person comes into your life, it won’t be at a point when you’ve dated a ton of different people? Had your heart broken and repaired time and time again? Save yourself and your love, and sacrifices for the person God has saved for you!

“Take delight in the¬†Lord,
and He will give you your heart‚Äôs desires…”