When Waiting is Hard

Godly Man  Sometimes waiting is hard, really hard. Now, more than ever, my heart longs for a Godly man to love me, stand by my side, and draw me closer to God. A man to be silly with, to cry on his shoulder, and pray with. I know that God has the perfect man set aside for me, and I’ve put my trust in Him and know that when the time is right, I’ll know exactly who that man is. There’s even a chance he’s already a part of my life and I just don’t know it yet.

When I look around at all of the wonderful examples of Godly marriages that are still overflowing with love, even years later, it encourages my heart and inspires me to suck it up and wait it out. The Lord won’t just leave me hanging and heart broken, I can feel Him preparing my heart for marriage. Whispering to me what to look for in a man and telling me not to settle just to have my Facebook profile say “In a Relationship.” No, there will not be any settling here.

I will wait for as long as it takes for the Lord to send me a man that I’ll spend the rest of my life with. I don’t want a man to love for 15, maybe 20 years. No. I want to spend the REST OF MY LIFE with the man I marry. I know we’ll disagree and our marriage won’t be anywhere near perfect, but I want a man who will always fight for me, even after we’ve fought with each other. A man who loves God more than he loves me, one who’s always willing to pray after we’ve had an argument then kiss and make up. A man who will say “I love you” until it’s nearly worn out, and who will be the Godly head of our household. I want our children to see our marriage and love for Jesus and say “I want that when I grow up.”

I know, it may seem like a lot to ask for, but don’t forget Who’s in charge here! I pray for my future husband and marriage every night. I can only hope and pray that the day it becomes a reality, those who have been watching my life, and maybe even doubting, will see that it IS worth the wait and when you put your trust in God He WILL give you the desires of your heart. Don’t lose hope, your time is coming, just keep trusting and be patient.

 

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Signed with Love

Rings on a Bible

To the man God has chosen for me,

  I just wanted you to know that I’m constantly praying for you. I can hardly wait for the day that I finally walk down the aisle to meet you and say “I do.” It’s crazy to think that you could be right in front of me and I won’t know it until the Lord wants me to. I’m looking forward to a life together full of love, laughter, and most importantly growing in Christ and encouraging each other. It’s not going to be perfect, we’re going to have disagreements and go through some tough stuff, but we’ll make it out stronger than we started!

I want our marriage to be so filled with love for each other and love for Jesus that people look at us and feel all warm and fuzzy inside. I want to be that couple who grow old together, watch each other go grey, stick together through thick and thin. I want to take time each morning to spend time in God’s word and pray together before we go on with our day.

I can’t wait to wake up next to you and know that The Lord put you in my life as my first love and most importantly my last. Patiently waiting for you is difficult some days, but I know in the end it will be rewarding and completely worth it. I pray that as I spend my season of singleness praying for you and drawing closer to God, you’re praying for me and drawing closer to God as well.

Sooner than we realize we’ll be together, serving the Lord and loving on His people. I can’t wait! Until then, my prayers continue for you, your family, and our marriage. The direction God will take us and how He’ll use us, and the ability for both of us to wait and not just settle because we’re tired of being single. We were made for each other, so hang in there with me! God’s timing is perfect!

With love,

 Single and Waiting

Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NIV)

Dear Christian Single

Dear Christian Single,

God's Best

I know it may seem like God has forgotten about you. You may feel like that you’re never going to find the spouse of your dreams and you’ll be single forever. Just keep hanging in there! You’re in this season of singleness for a good reason, although you may never find out why, God knows and that’s all that matters. Don’t lose hope, God hasn’t forgotten about you! His timing is perfect and when He finally brings you to the person He’s been preparing for you, you’ll realize that the wait was more than worth it. As you’re waiting, don’t put your life on hold because you feel as though you can’t go any further until you’re married. Use this time to your advantage, after all, God has put you here for a reason! Strengthen your relationship with Him, pray for your future spouse, make a list of qualities you want to find in and have for that spouse.

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you…”

James 4:8 (NKJV) 

Most of us can probably say that we honestly don’t spend enough time with God each day. I know I have days when I get out of bed, throw myself together, and go into work without even touching my Bible. Let me tell you, I can feel it by the end of the day! Even if you don’t always have time to open up your Bible, make sure to acknowledge Him each morning and evening. Whether it be a quick little prayer about your day, a “Thank You” now and then throughout the day, or even starting your day with some praise music on the way to or getting ready for work or school. You don’t have to spend an hour in your Bible and in prayer for it to count. Use your season of singleness to find different ways to draw closer to Him. Better yet, use this time to serve Him and love on His people. Volunteer, get involved with your church in different ways, mentor someone younger than you, there are plenty of opportunities! Watch, listen, and be open to change as he prepares your heart for that special person!

“Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalm 37:4 (NIV)

Pray for your future spouse! It may seem silly because you don’t know who you’re praying FOR, but God does. Use your list of qualities as a guideline for your prayers. Also pray that the Lord will continue to prepare your heart and shape you into the person He needs you to be for that spouse.

You can kind of pick out the qualities I’m looking for in my future husband in a past post of mine entitled “From Me, with Love” go check it out and maybe take the time to write out a letter to your future spouse as well!

“God intends and expects marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.”  

~ John C. Broger 

“Waiting in Motion”

Waiting in Motion

I think we can all agree that waiting is hard to do, especially when you know that at the end of the waiting period is something exciting! There are many places in Scripture that instruct us to wait on God, be patient and He’ll give us all that we deserve and the greatest desires of our hearts.

“My soul is quiet and waits for God alone. My hope comes from Him.”

~Psalm 62:5 (NLV)

“I wait for the Lord. My soul waits and I hope in His Word. My soul waits for the Lord more than one who watches for the morning; yes, more than one who watches for the morning.”

~Psalm 130:5-6 (NLV)

“But as for me, I will watch for the Lord. I will wait for the God Who saves me. My God will hear me.”

~Micah 7:7 (NLV)

… and those are just a few of those “wait on God” references!

The one that is sticking with me though, is this one. It doesn’t specifically tell us to “wait,” but instead to “trust” and “delight” in the Lord. The Message translation even tells us to “Get insurance with God.”

“Trust in the Lord, and do good;
Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
 Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.”

~Psalm 37:3-4 (NKJV)

Three things come to mind that I want to touch on in this post. A couple of which Sammy Adebiyi brought up in the sermons I listened to last night. “The Bachelor and the Bachelorette Part 1: The Weight of the Wait” and “The Bachelor and the Bachelorette Part 2: What is Love?” (They can be found here: http://sammyadebiyi.com/audio-messages)

1) Waiting in motion-

“Trust in the Lord, and do good…” The Lord doesn’t want us to sit around and do nothing as we wait for Him to move in our lives. He wants us to be active as we wait. Get involved, volunteer, make connections with others. Sitting around in your pajamas, eating oreos and watching Netflix isn’t the best way to find the person you’re meant to spend the rest of your life with! (I know the context of this Scripture has a much deeper meaning, but we can apply it to this too.)

2) Even Adam had to wait! (He also did so actively.)

Genesis 2:15-22- (NIV)

15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam[a] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man’s ribs[b]and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[c] He had taken out of the man, and He brought her to the man.”

Adam had to keep busy while he waited for a helper. When the Lord realized that Adam hadn’t found one suitable from the animals, He put Adam to sleep and created Eve. More waiting! From the beginning of the human race, we’ve had to wait on God to put the right person in our lives. It may not be easy, but…

3) The wait is worth it!

One day, you’ll find someone who loves Jesus tons more than they love you, someone who will lift you up to God and support you in all of your life’s adventures. You’ll bring each other closer to Christ, love on His people, and make a difference in the lives of others. All because you waited on God to put the right person in your life! Wouldn’t it be so much better if when that right person comes into your life, it won’t be at a point when you’ve dated a ton of different people? Had your heart broken and repaired time and time again? Save yourself and your love, and sacrifices for the person God has saved for you!

“Take delight in the Lord,
and He will give you your heart’s desires…”