Dear Christian Single

Dear Christian Single,

God's Best

I know it may seem like God has forgotten about you. You may feel like that you’re never going to find the spouse of your dreams and you’ll be single forever. Just keep hanging in there! You’re in this season of singleness for a good reason, although you may never find out why, God knows and that’s all that matters. Don’t lose hope, God hasn’t forgotten about you! His timing is perfect and when He finally brings you to the person He’s been preparing for you, you’ll realize that the wait was more than worth it. As you’re waiting, don’t put your life on hold because you feel as though you can’t go any further until you’re married. Use this time to your advantage, after all, God has put you here for a reason! Strengthen your relationship with Him, pray for your future spouse, make a list of qualities you want to find in and have for that spouse.

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you…”

James 4:8 (NKJV) 

Most of us can probably say that we honestly don’t spend enough time with God each day. I know I have days when I get out of bed, throw myself together, and go into work without even touching my Bible. Let me tell you, I can feel it by the end of the day! Even if you don’t always have time to open up your Bible, make sure to acknowledge Him each morning and evening. Whether it be a quick little prayer about your day, a “Thank You” now and then throughout the day, or even starting your day with some praise music on the way to or getting ready for work or school. You don’t have to spend an hour in your Bible and in prayer for it to count. Use your season of singleness to find different ways to draw closer to Him. Better yet, use this time to serve Him and love on His people. Volunteer, get involved with your church in different ways, mentor someone younger than you, there are plenty of opportunities! Watch, listen, and be open to change as he prepares your heart for that special person!

“Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Psalm 37:4 (NIV)

Pray for your future spouse! It may seem silly because you don’t know who you’re praying FOR, but God does. Use your list of qualities as a guideline for your prayers. Also pray that the Lord will continue to prepare your heart and shape you into the person He needs you to be for that spouse.

You can kind of pick out the qualities I’m looking for in my future husband in a past post of mine entitled “From Me, with Love” go check it out and maybe take the time to write out a letter to your future spouse as well!

“God intends and expects marriage to be a lifetime commitment between a man and a woman, based on the principles of biblical love. The relationship between Jesus Christ and His church is the supreme example of the committed love that a husband and wife are to follow in their relationship with each other.”  

~ John C. Broger 

Christians and Tattoos

This has been an issue on my heart for awhile, I just never had a place to express my thoughts and feelings on this controversy. Being a Christian, and obviously having been inked, I’ve faced much turmoil over my decision to get tattooed. I’ve had Leviticus 19:28 (Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD) thrown in my face more times than I can count. What I don’t understand is, if I’M being scolded for “printing marks upon me,” then what about what the rest of the passage says when we put verse 28 back in context? The passage continues on and tells us that we also are not to “cut the hair of our temples, shave our beards, wear clothing with mixed linen, eat the meat of an animal drained of blood… etc.” If I’m being scolded for getting tattooed, why are people getting away with something simple like getting a haircut, or wearing a poly/cotton blend, eating meat? There are some things in that passage that still apply in today’s day and age, but not all of it. I’ve thought about this for awhile, so I have multiple ways of looking at it.

My second thought being, isn’t our body just a temporary shell to use as we spend the relatively short time here on earth? So, keeping that mindset, my tattoos won’t go with me to heaven, correct? And, even if they DID I don’t have the mark of the beast inked across my forehead. Mine are both faith based, tucked away from plain sight, and anymore that I may get will be as well. All of them have a sentimental meaning and aren’t just because I wanted to go out and get inked. Yeah, our body is supposed to be a temple for the Holy Spirit, isn’t that just in the heart? Marking up my “earthly shell” isn’t changing my heart. I’m still the same person on the inside and continue to live my life for Christ, my tattoos have nothing to do with that.

My last point… *phew* I know. The Bible tells us that nothing we do can make Christ stop loving us. His love is eternal, unending, as I mentioned in my last post. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t make an exception for those of us with tattoos. “You have tattoos, my eternal love doesn’t apply, to Hell with you!” I have a pretty strong feeling that that’s not how it works. I could be wrong and I know that I’m probably going to get some debate on this issue, but I’m fully prepared for any backlash I may get from this post. Those are my thoughts and opinions, you’re welcome to have yours as well.